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Ok....
Well, I've been thinking about absent friends - the people you just aren't in contact with any more, for whatever reason. Maybe it was intentional, on either of your parts, maybe there is something unresolved between you, maybe you just lost a phone number or address and you would be in touch, if only you could! - so:
Who are the five people from your past you would most like to be able to see, speak to or simply communicate with, by whatever means? Why did you lost touch? What would you tell them if only you had the chance - without fear of major repercussions, especially if that's why you haven't been in touch already!"
As it was my question, I really should... ;-)
1. My grandparents. Pop died in 1991, and Nan in 1997, both at particular times when my life was pretty screwed up due to outside influences. I grew up more with them than my parents, and wear both their wedding rings all the time. I sometimes can't believe how much I miss them. I still talk to them, but hearing their answers is just so hard sometimes. Even when I patently didn't listen, what they said and thought always mattered.
2. Mary Little from university. She was someone I felt a major connection with, and I don't know why both of us let it go so easily. I know, moving to a different country, and endless moves since that, and all the other stuff that goes into making up a life do create distance, but I'd love to spend a night curled up on a couch & talk about all that's happened. Hell, R. is out of touch with her too, and they still live in the same city - as far as I know.
3. Graeme Baird, who was an incredibly supportive friend at a time when I needed one - even if it was only through the net & phone calls. But there were serious issues, in that he left out a lot about what was happening IRL with him, and it blew up on a grand scale. I'd love to tell him that so much of what was going on worked out all right for me, and to laugh about how I ended up spending half my life in Glasgow (where he was originally from) with someone who matters very much. I'd really like to think he made it through OK too, and rebuilt his relationship - I wish both of them well and wish the horrible misconceptions hadn't happened. I hope he is happy and considerably more content. And I'd love to hear from him, but don't think I could make the contact, lest it be misread.
4. Paul Gill, an old lover of mine from ancient history ;-) A soulmate if there ever was one, especially for a fucked-up adolescent - and that was both of us! I *think* he's in Yellowknife... it took me years to get it from fucking my head up, but I managed to reach that point a few years ago, and would love to be able to catch up now, as (hopefully!) adults and talk about all that passed.
5. Poly from PlusDivas. I miss our chats, I really do.
Some people thought this question was about regret - but to me, it wasn't. It's more about hope - I don't want to go back and change things. We could have even more in the future.
Ok....
Well, I've been thinking about absent friends - the people you just aren't in contact with any more, for whatever reason. Maybe it was intentional, on either of your parts, maybe there is something unresolved between you, maybe you just lost a phone number or address and you would be in touch, if only you could! - so:
Who are the five people from your past you would most like to be able to see, speak to or simply communicate with, by whatever means? Why did you lost touch? What would you tell them if only you had the chance - without fear of major repercussions, especially if that's why you haven't been in touch already!"
As it was my question, I really should... ;-)
1. My grandparents. Pop died in 1991, and Nan in 1997, both at particular times when my life was pretty screwed up due to outside influences. I grew up more with them than my parents, and wear both their wedding rings all the time. I sometimes can't believe how much I miss them. I still talk to them, but hearing their answers is just so hard sometimes. Even when I patently didn't listen, what they said and thought always mattered.
2. Mary Little from university. She was someone I felt a major connection with, and I don't know why both of us let it go so easily. I know, moving to a different country, and endless moves since that, and all the other stuff that goes into making up a life do create distance, but I'd love to spend a night curled up on a couch & talk about all that's happened. Hell, R. is out of touch with her too, and they still live in the same city - as far as I know.
3. Graeme Baird, who was an incredibly supportive friend at a time when I needed one - even if it was only through the net & phone calls. But there were serious issues, in that he left out a lot about what was happening IRL with him, and it blew up on a grand scale. I'd love to tell him that so much of what was going on worked out all right for me, and to laugh about how I ended up spending half my life in Glasgow (where he was originally from) with someone who matters very much. I'd really like to think he made it through OK too, and rebuilt his relationship - I wish both of them well and wish the horrible misconceptions hadn't happened. I hope he is happy and considerably more content. And I'd love to hear from him, but don't think I could make the contact, lest it be misread.
4. Paul Gill, an old lover of mine from ancient history ;-) A soulmate if there ever was one, especially for a fucked-up adolescent - and that was both of us! I *think* he's in Yellowknife... it took me years to get it from fucking my head up, but I managed to reach that point a few years ago, and would love to be able to catch up now, as (hopefully!) adults and talk about all that passed.
5. Poly from PlusDivas. I miss our chats, I really do.
Some people thought this question was about regret - but to me, it wasn't. It's more about hope - I don't want to go back and change things. We could have even more in the future.
